Online affiliate marketing

Mind-set

When I first decided to try working online I had two thoughts in mind:

1.    To quit my job

2.    To make lots of money

I gave no time to thinking about why I wanted to quit my job or even why I wanted lots of money.

I used to enjoy the work that I did as a trainer and university lecturer but gradually I seemed to lose my enthusiasm. Work seemed to be such an effort and I felt constantly tired and would get colds and sore throats every 5 minutes.

My passion for teaching was evaporating as I had to deliver programmes to people who had been sent by their employer. These people had no real interest in the subjects and were only motivated by achieving their next pay scale.

Still, financially we were reasonably well off and certainly we had incomes well above the national average. We lived in a nice house, had a decent car and could afford regular holidays.

So why did I suddenly feel so desperate to change and what drew me to working online?

Motivation

All the things that were motivating me at this time were negative – I wasn’t happy with the area we lived in, I wanted a bigger garden, I was bored and frustrated with my job, I had no quality time….and so on.

My life had become one long moan and I was even starting to bore myself.

But instead of really exploring what was going on in my life that was making me feel this way I typically looked for something to distract my attention.

And when I looked what did I find?

Multi-level marketing on the internet!

Of course this was going to be the answer to all my ‘problems’ – I’d quickly make lots of money and then I could quit work, get a bigger garden and just laze around all day.

Because I was not dealing with any of the things that were really happening in my life I was an ideal candidate for all the dream building hype that so many mlm companies thrive on.

‘You too can be driving this Porche, living in this massive house with a swimming pool and a team of staff to take care of you, you can go to the spa every week and laze around all day in your designer clothes etc

The real reason

There certainly was a reason why I found my way first into mlm and then into social network marketing but I would not find it out until after 18 months of failure, rejection, and ridicule – ‘how’s that pyramid thing going, you a millionaire yet?’.

My mlm experience was fairly common and you can read more about it over on my MySpace page at www.myspace.com/narbundi

Little did I know it during the time when I was pitching my opportunity to anything with a pulse but I was on this journey for a reason. Looking back I can now see so clearly that there was a vital purpose for these unpleasant experiences.

The purpose was so that I could develop into the person that I needed to be in order to gain the things that I really wanted. And the things that I really wanted turned out to be very different from the things that I thought I wanted.

Some universal laws

Many people have heard about the law of attraction as it has received a great deal of publicity recently from the movie The Secret and the availability of The Science of Getting Rich (you can download this book for free at www.supanovasuperstars.com) .

However, there are other universal laws which are just as important.

For example, the law of gratitude. I had reached a point in my life where I was so focussed on everything that was wrong and negative that I forgot to notice all the great and wonderful things that I had.

At a time when I had a wonderful happy marriage, 2 great healthy kids, a comfortable home, a good career etc all I could see was what I didn’t have.

And the more I focussed on what I didn’t have the less progress I was making towards getting the things that I really wanted.

With all this negativity and desperation hanging round me was it any wonder that nobody wanted to join me and become part of my downline! If I had met me at this stage I wouldn’t have joined me either.

And I see this desperation and unhappiness in so many other people who are trying to work online. Like me, so many people are motivated by negative things – they’ve lost their job and need to get money quick, they hate their job and want to quit, their neighbour has a better car so they want an even bigger one.

But negative motivation only ever brings you more of what you are focussing on. So if you are always thinking about bills then more bills will come, if you are constantly worried about your health you will always be ill etc

The power of positive thinking

Most of us have heard about the benefits of positive thinking but very few people actually take the time to learn how to manage their thoughts so that they work for you rather than against you.

Henry Ford once said ‘…either you think you can or you think you can’t, either way you’ll be right’

As soon as I started to be truly grateful for all the wonderful things I already had in my life my thoughts began to work for me instead of against me.

Instead of thinking about the ‘lack’ in my life I started to think about the ’abundance’ and the more abundant my thoughts became the more my reality improved.

Instead of thinking about how many people I needed to recruit in order to replace my income I began to think about how many people I needed to help.

This fundamental shift in thinking led me to find another way of working online. I realised that the reason I had joined an mlm company had nothing to do with the fact that I really wanted to do mlm. My motivation was, therefore, incongruent – meaning my action did not really match what I truly wanted to do.

This is one reason why mlm works for some people but not for most. The people who succeed often do so because they have a genuine passion for the opportunity and the product, the majority who fail do so because their only motivation was to make money.

The reason is revealed

The process of trying to build my mlm business was, on one level, very negative. Yet, at the same time it was the very best thing that could have happened to me.

My total failure to replace my income using mlm made me really examine myself for the first time in years. I realised that my ‘burn out’ was not about lack of money, being in the wrong house, not having enough time etc

My unhappiness was caused by my realisation that I had ‘sold out’ and had stopped growing and moving forward in my life. I was wasting my teaching skills which I valued so much and this burden was affecting all the areas of my life.

In trying to find a way to make my mlm business work I encountered new people, ideas, systems, information and possibilities. I learned that there was a way for me to combine using my teaching skills with making money online and that is what I now do.

I have developed my own online business which continues to go from strength to strength. I work with wonderful people all over the world and am a member of a fantastic mentoring group. I left work forever last year and I help other people to do the same.

So I can now see that my mlm experience was just the universe’s way of revealing my future to me.

Now I start and end each day with gratitude and if you are lost and need to find a new way I suggest that you do the same.

 

  

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